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Happy Is A Verb

  Happy  One of the greatest discoveries by psychologists in the last century is that we humans are able to affect how we feel about anything, independent of our circumstances. To cite an extreme example, someone sick and dying can find reasons for joy in diminished circumstances while another, a wealthy and favoured person could live out their days in despondency. Without trying to undercut the seriousness of the medically diagnosed illness called depression, their is a lot each of us is able to do about feeling happy in our minds, being happy with ourselves . I admit it is usually easier to be happy with a chunk of juicy BBQ in my mouth. Your preference might be a glass of wine. A lot of elderly women like to fuss around with their grandchildren, it gives them a reason for living. We all have things we associate with wellness and just having those symbols around would make us feel better. Many of us were lucky as children to have parents who did things to make us happy. Sometim

Happy Independence Day

 Reading the news today, you’d think Nigeria is what statisticians call “doing okay” . Half of the news analysis say the government of Nigeria is okay, the other half think the country is in a mess. So on average, that is okay, abi? They make everything about government as if government is equal to Nigeria. Government is not Nigeria and Nigeria is not government..

Build A Bigger Sphere

   It just so happens that the earth is shaped like a sphere, roundish but with depth. It is a wonderful form, filled with metaphorical meanings. You read about the seven spheres of life, the nine spheres of heaven (planets), four spheres of well being, i.e. Emotional, Physical, Social, and Financial. The cynic in me makes me wonder if the numbers are arbitrary. 

See The World As It Is

Beware of Dogma One of the major challenges of living is being able to see the world exactly as it is. Too often, we see what is projected. Let's do an experiment. What is the colour of your skin? What ever is your shade or tint of the human pigment, it certainly is not white or black. Yet mainstream media persists in pushing the prevalent ideology of this non existent absolute skin pigments just as it pushes other extremes of good and bad, faithful and infidel, friend and foe, us against the others, what matters and what does not matter. 

. Be With People Who Love You

Protect Your Inner Peace (c) Kiibaati.com My good friend, B.A was nursing the metaphorical broken heart . Tall, dark, rich and handsome, he ticked all the right boxes of the clichéd definition of a desirable male like it was a class quiz. A sports enthusiast, he had the physique of an Olympian but the mild manners of a well groomed alter boy. Normally, he was accustomed to hav ing a firm control of his emotions. But the failure of a three year relationship revealed the chink in his armour. Believe me, it is a depressing thing to see a grown man muffle his tears with a pillow as he cried himself to sleep. 

Those Fated To Succeed

So long a go, in what appears now to be like a previous life, I lived and worked in the welsh town called Aberystwyth. It is a rugged and picturesque place, with lots of public art that imbues it with a sense of heroic history. The proud aborigines Wales retained the use of their local tongue and it was quaint to see road signs written in their Cymru script. I was a student then, and in between work and sightseeing, I also visited their universities and used their librarys. It was on one of such visits that I met Pastor Dr. Lanre**. 

What Will You Do With A Million Naira?

" Make It Rain ". Photo Credit : Scooter Lowrimore A million is not what it used to be but it is still no chopping change. For those who think is USD, that is about $2500 at the MasterCard Forex rate. There are lots of traders in Lagos markets , keeping a family and sending their kids to university with less than that as working capital. Add a lot of hustle, some advance payment from buyers, a little credit from suppliers and it all adds up. As a wise UK philosopher called Tesco once said, every little helps. 

Cherish The Simple Joys

Simple Joys: My Daughter Travelled To Accra and Got me This :) ALWAYS find something to be happy about, however small. Don’t get it twisted, money is a wonderful thing for all the monetary reasons. And also, for the extra leg room in aeroplanes, corn fed prime beef barbecue, avocado sandwiches and decadent celebratory champagne showers. And Cohiba cigars. But life has it’s yin and yang, both part of a total experience. Having a good time need not cost a lot of money, what one needs is a trained palate. A cultured mind will know that happiness can enjoyed in both the previously mentioned experiences as well as in a communal feast of roast corn on the cob or plantain baked its skin. That summer in Europe is just as swell as Christmas in your home town. That the most important things are not price tags or things but experiences and the people we share them with. A very wise elder once advised a younger me that everything one has and values which can be taken away from our g

A First Lesson In Business

Dish Washing: Nobody likes doing it You will have to do LOTS of things you DON'T want to do.

You Have To Help Yourself

Be In It To Win It Most times you have to help God to help you. 

Don’t Give Up

Crash! Now Pick Up The Pieces Contrary to whatever you’ve heard before, failure is a natural consequence of making an attempt at your goals. It’s not the only consequence or the most important one. It is just the one of the options and most of us get to experience it. 

Protecting Your Dreams

Dreamcatcher: Charm used by American Indians Your desire for success is like planting a seed.   In the Bible, there is the story of the guy who went about planting seeds everywhere, even on rocky hard places. Good for him but you are not him. You have limited seeds and time. Protect your dreams. Before you plant, you need to do a proper soil test, read the meteorological forecasts. Then you start by planting the seed in a nursery and nurturing it till it’s strong enough to go outside. Call it a stealth launch.  There is a right way of starting out, find it.  There is this story I heard about my favourite band. The Roots. Years before they became stars and all that, they were at a concert of their favourite band and they got an opportunity to go back stage to meet the big stars, sign autographs and do what fans do. But they passed. See, they had this dream that one day, they’ll be collaborators, they and their dream band, and that one day the story will be written and it will be history

Podcast Episode 1 - Post Covid, New Blog and Matters

Stay Safe, Wear Masks Kiibaati podcast · Episode 1 - Post Covid, New Blog And Matters Arising

Take Your Medicine

This Must Hurt You are hurting. Once you had a dream about this venture, it kept you up at night and woke you up in the morning. It featured in every prayer from your lips, your divine contract with God. It became your identity; you say, this is what I do, this is who I am. For a while it seemed feasible, even almost certain. Then the skies started to shit bricks and you started to wonder if the previous progress was just beginners’ luck.

The Entrepreneurial Contract

Recently I got a WhatsApp from an undergraduate student. I don’t know the young personally but she apparently knew enough about me to know I own a property in Epe town, which had facilities for a fish farming. This young man – let’s call him Emma – requested permission to use these facilities – tarpaulin ponds, land, borehole, electricity supply etc. for a cycle of fish farming and she asked quite respectfully. I actually admire a student who decides to put a little downtime in his academic calendar to better use. Only one thing was missing in his request. Did you notice the missing clause?