Friday, July 24, 2020

Cherish The Simple Joys

Simple Joys: My Daughter Travelled To Accra and Got me This
Simple Joys: My Daughter Travelled To Accra and Got me This :)

ALWAYS find something to be happy about, however small.

Don’t get it twisted, money is a wonderful thing for all the monetary reasons. And also, for the extra leg room in aeroplanes, corn fed prime beef barbecue, avocado sandwiches and decadent celebratory champagne showers. And Cohiba cigars.

But life has it’s yin and yang, both part of a total experience. Having a good time need not cost a lot of money, what one needs is a trained palate. A cultured mind will know that happiness can enjoyed in both the previously mentioned experiences as well as in a communal feast of roast corn on the cob or plantain baked its skin. That summer in Europe is just as swell as Christmas in your home town. That the most important things are not price tags or things but experiences and the people we share them with.

A very wise elder once advised a younger me that everything one has and values which can be taken away from our grasps will be (taken) eventually. Health, wealth, life. Rather that struggle with this eventuality, embrace it with gusto. Use your body like a prized vehicle, caring for and fine tuning it so that you can enjoy the maximum pleasure therefrom and for as long as possible. Plan to earn and give away as much wealth as possible while you are alive, while you can see the joy in the faces of your beneficiaries. Buy the gift now rather than bequeath it with your estate. Live your life so thoroughly that when the time comes, you are totally at peace that one life is enough.

Let those you love know you love them. Do not take the love of your lovers lightly,

Find a hobby that gives you a tremendous shot of dopamine at very little cost, preferably by doing something of benefit to others. Paint, draw, sing, play a musical instrument. Personally, I took up making barbecue and discovered there was much more joy in the smell and sight of slow cooking meat over burning charcoal than in the meal itself. And joy of watching them lick their fingers!


Develop a personal spiritual experience that nobody can take away from you. I’ve seen people change their mind from one religious organisation to another; it is only when you lose faith in yourself and your purpose in life that your mental health becomes at risk.

Learn to be able to stay at peace in a room of your own. The Yorubas say that it is in confusion that we look upwards; there is no secret wisdom hidden in the rafters. You have all you need to propel you to become whatever you want, hidden inside you, and you have a life time to discover it.

One of the most wonderful experiences I had in my life so far was sitting in the balcony of our family house with my mother, sharing a magical moment, drinking a bottle of Guinness small stout apiece.

Two bottles of Guinness small stout: Five Hundred Naira

Real conversation with my mother, three months before she died: Priceless.

There are some things money can’t buy.

Now I only pray to have it become a ritual with my children as adults.

Thursday, July 23, 2020

A First Lesson In Business

Dish Washing: Nobody likes doing it
Dish Washing: Nobody likes doing it

You will have to do LOTS of things you DON'T want to do.

Tuesday, July 21, 2020

Don’t Give Up

Crash! Now Pick Up The Pieces
Crash! Now Pick Up The Pieces

Contrary to whatever you’ve heard before, failure is a natural consequence of making an attempt at your goals. It’s not the only consequence or the most important one. It is just the one of the options and most of us get to experience it. 

Monday, July 20, 2020

Protecting Your Dreams

Dreamcatcher: Charm used by American Indians

Your desire for success is like planting a seed.  

In the Bible, there is the story of the guy who went about planting seeds everywhere, even on rocky hard places. Good for him but you are not him. You have limited seeds and time. Protect your dreams. Before you plant, you need to do a proper soil test, read the meteorological forecasts. Then you start by planting the seed in a nursery and nurturing it till it’s strong enough to go outside. Call it a stealth launch. 

There is a right way of starting out, find it. 

There is this story I heard about my favourite band. The Roots. Years before they became stars and all that, they were at a concert of their favourite band and they got an opportunity to go back stage to meet the big stars, sign autographs and do what fans do. But they passed.

See, they had this dream that one day, they’ll be collaborators, they and their dream band, and that one day the story will be written and it will be history. How The Roots met the X band (I can’t remember the name). They didn’t just want to meet as fans, they wanted to meet as collaborators and colleagues. So they passed up the first opportunity and instead worked on their craft, worked on realising their dreams, which in fact they did. That’s how you build a team that stays relevant in the music scene for twenty years and counting.

One day, you too are going to make history. Believe me. 

Before you get there, there are people you need to attract but who can’t come in yet if there are no vacancies in your life. So, you should also get rid of the negative people in your life, those who think you can’t make it. Since we are being drastic, get rid of all the shady people too.  Mentally put them in the outside circle. Instead, surround yourself with enthusiastic supporters, even if it’s only one. Even if it’s you alone. When it comes to friendships, like actually attract like and it gets better.

There are shortcuts you are going to pass up just because you know that should not make it into your biography. For example, every body like a sex tape but maybe you shouldn’t make one. And say no to drugs. It’s hard, I know, but when you become made and famous, you don’t need that back story. Give yourself higher standards, like you are already the ish. You know that phrase, “fake it till you make it”? This is what it means, it is not about living a lie. Live up to a higher performance standard until it becomes your normal.  

Protect your dreams with zeal. It is rough out there and if you don’t, nobody else will. 

Thursday, July 9, 2020

Take Your Medicine

Take Your Medicine
This Must Hurt

You are hurting.

Once you had a dream about this venture, it kept you up at night and woke you up in the morning. It featured in every prayer from your lips, your divine contract with God. It became your identity; you say, this is what I do, this is who I am.

For a while it seemed feasible, even almost certain. Then the skies started to shit bricks and you started to wonder if the previous progress was just beginners’ luck.

Tuesday, July 7, 2020

The Entrepreneurial Contract

The Entrepreneurial Contract

Recently I got a WhatsApp from an undergraduate student. I don’t know the young personally but she apparently knew enough about me to know I own a property in Epe town, which had facilities for a fish farming. This young man – let’s call him Emma – requested permission to use these facilities – tarpaulin ponds, land, borehole, electricity supply etc. for a cycle of fish farming and she asked quite respectfully. I actually admire a student who decides to put a little downtime in his academic calendar to better use. Only one thing was missing in his request. Did you notice the missing clause? 

Life is A Journey

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